Be Your Own Medicine
Now is a very good moment to take stock of things; health, ambitions, emotions, finances and relationships.
We have been through an accelerated growth spurt, we are still going through it, in fact we are probably only in the birth canal. You could think of it as a consciousness upgrade and you may have already begun to evaluate things in a slightly different way.
I believe this is the perfect moment to reflect, become curious and bring healing to the following
Your Family; warts and all. I invite you to take an honest look at your family and the dynamics within your family make-up. Are there any relationships that you are concerned about?
These might directly impact you or it might be that they don’t involve you directly, yet somehow they still seem to affect your state of mind. Think about how this makes you feel. Write an entry in your journal about anything that comes up.
Perhaps there is something that could be healed here, or perhaps it is something that can be brought easily to acceptance. Perhaps it evokes feelings in you that you might wish to address on your own without needing to confront the other people involved.
Our families and our nearest and dearest hold a mirror up to us; although at times these relationships can be amongst the most difficult in our lives, they can give us the greatest opportunity for growth. So sometimes someone else’s behaviour triggers something in us that we ourselves need to work on.
This is not about blame this is about us seeing ourselves in others uncomfortable behaviour and having the courage to heal it in ourselves.
Your family’s health; think about all the health conditions that run through your family. Are there any strong family tendencies toward certain health conditions? It is interesting to look at the sort of illness that families suffer from, although this does not mean that you will necessarily suffer from the same conditions.
It does give some clues about health and the emotional backdrop to your life. It is a good time to talk openly to your family about health and also their own emotional struggles (if that seems appropriate). Physical and mental health are equally important, although sometimes previous generations were more reluctant to talk about emotions.
How was your mother after your birth? Did she suffer from depression or low mood? Were either of your parents ill while you were growing up? How did this impact on you? Has this shaped your outlook on life; if so in a good way or in a negative way?
Parents' illness need not always impact negatively if the parent demonstrated a positive emotional outlook and you were loved and well cared for.
Belief systems; what beliefs about yourself did you form in childhood? Were these reinforced by parents or siblings or other significant people in your life. Maybe school friends or bullies? Did you set up beliefs about yourself that you have carried with you all your life, beliefs that are so deeply rooted that they have shaped your life.
Addiction; addiction can show up in lots of ways. There are the obvious addictions such as alcohol or drugs, abuse, gambling or adultery & sex. Then there are the less obvious ones such as work addiction, shopping, food, health, exercise or relationship addiction.
These traits can run through many generations, sometimes to such an extent that to people within that family dynamic they seem perfectly normal. Think about the patterns and reflect on if they seem healthy or not.
The impact of living with an addict can run deep and affect us in ways we might not even be aware of. Now is a good time to address some of these issues so that you can free up more energy to put towards conscious awareness and break some of the patterns of the past. This is also a good time to evaluate your own drinking habits and/or other addictions.
Accidents; have a think back over your life and anything that might impact on your health and emotions in the here and now.
Did you have any kind of accident that caused emotional or physical vulnerability? Sometimes childhood accidents can cause lifelong issues emotionally or physically. How did adults respond to the accident? How were you treated? With kid gloves? Did you develop a fragility or a specialness?
If anything on this list has struck a chord with you then I encourage you to take it further.
It might be that simply be bringing your awareness to certain issues you are able to find a way through. Or it might be that self-enquiry leads to a deeper, more in depth enquiry with the support of a one to one with me, or perhaps embarking on my Medicine Women Mentorship.
Either way knowledge is power and identifying issues that might be impacting on our emotional, physical or fertile health can bring about change and growth and ultimately to wholeness.